Kevin Breel calls on all of us to honestly answer, “Am I okay?” He pleads for us to be open and honest with our friends and family instead of hiding behind, “I’m fine, everything’s fine.”
It’s important to take a moment to breathe and be real about what we’re feeling. Not everyone feels depressed or suicidal, but it’s easy for us to pay so much attention to getting things done that we don’t pause to check on how we’re doing, to notice if we’re feeling overwhelmed or frustrated. It’s dangerous to bottle up those feelings over time.
The Bloggess provides phone numbers for suicide hotlines, and writes that they’ve saved her from self-harm on multiple occasions. To Write Love on Her Arms is asking people to share why they cannot be replaced. She posted her reasons.
Here are mine.
I have considered suicide a few times in my life. I count myself lucky that I had loving, supportive people who helped me, but it took me speaking up to let them know I needed help.
Some of you might feel alone. Consider though, that you are at least some of the following. You are someone’s:
The first time I thought about committing suicide, I kept imagining my funeral. I figured the only person who would show up was my mother. Since I’ve accepted my depression and learned healthy coping skills, I’ve made a lot more friends. Now when I’m feeling really down, I think of all the people who would show up to my funeral today, and I think, “I can’t do that to them. I can’t take away my life and the part of me that touches their lives. That’s not right.”
You matter. To someone. To your community. You matter to me, even if we’ve never met in person. You have something to contribute, and I want you to hang in there so you can and so the rest of us can witness and benefit from it.
If you or anyone you know shows any of the following warning signs, please get help. You can call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to find out what resources are available in your area.
- Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves
- Looking for a way to kill themselves, such as searching online or buying a gun
- Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live
- Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain
- Talking about being a burden to others
- Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs
- Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly
- Sleeping too little or too much
- Withdrawing or isolating themselves
- Displaying extreme mood swings
It bears repeating: YOU CANNOT BE REPLACED.
Please share below some of the many reasons you cannot be replaced.